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Albert Ellis
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I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert. Albert Ellis

And just as two wrongs don't make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them. Albert Ellis

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change. Albert Ellis

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today. Albert Ellis

I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression. Albert Ellis

Stop shoulding on yourself Albert Ellis

The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery. Albert Ellis

For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic. People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world. Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional. The art of love is largely the art of persistence. Albert Ellis

The emotionally mature individual should completely accept the fact that we live in a world of probability and chance, where there are not, nor probably ever will be, any absolute certainties, and should realize that it is not at all horrible, indeed-such a probabilistic, uncertain world. Albert Ellis

Spirit and soul is horseshit of the worst sort. Obviously there are no fairies, no Santa Clauses, no spirits. What there is, is human goals and purposes as noted by sane existentialists. But a lot of transcendentalists are utter screwballs. Albert Ellis

Fat is a barrier, a bellicose statement to others that, to some, justifies hostility in kind. The world says to the fat person, "Your fatness is an affront to me, so we have the right to treat you as offensively as you appear." Fat is not merely viewed as another type of tissue, but as a diagnostic sign, a personal statement, and a measure of personality. Too little fat and we see you as being antisocial, fearful and sexless. Too much fat and we see you as slothful, stupid, and sexually hung up. Albert Ellis

Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them. Albert Ellis

The goal...is not to change your desires and wishes but to persuade you to stop demanding that you absolutely must have what you wish-from yourself, from others, and from the world. You can by all means keep your wishes, preferences, and desires, but unless you prefer to remain needlessly anxious, not your grandiose demands. Albert Ellis

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic. Albert Ellis

Neurosis is just a high-class word for whining. Albert Ellis

The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action. Albert Ellis

Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them. Albert Ellis

Unless, of course, you insist on identifying yourself with the people and things you love; and thereby seriously disturb yourself. Albert Ellis

Life is indeed difficult, partly because of the real difficulties we must overcome in order to survive, and partly because of our own innate desire to always do better, to overcome new challenges, to self-actualize. Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor. Albert Ellis

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational. Albert Ellis

I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition. Albert Ellis

Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse. Albert Ellis

By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit. Albert Ellis

Worry itself is one of the most painful conditions. Albert Ellis

People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us. Albert Ellis

If people stopped looking on their emotions as ethereal, almost inhuman processes, and realistically viewed them as being largely composed of perceptions, thoughts, evaluations, and internalized sentences, they would find it quite possible to work calmly and concertedly at changing them. Albert Ellis

It is only in your mind that you have to excel, at anything or everything. Of course, it would be very nice to excel at most things. Indeed, we recommend that you try and do your best. But realistically, you are entitled to do the bare minimum to get by. All your accomplishments are just a bonus, something to enjoy, not requirements. You don't have to do anything to prove that you are worthy of existing. Albert Ellis

You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can. Albert Ellis

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy. Albert Ellis

In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs. Albert Ellis

I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist. Albert Ellis

This, perhaps, goes to show that conditional self-esteem, as I have said for many years, is an insidious, real sickness, so much so that even Buddhists carelessly sneak it in and sometimes encourage their clients to achieve it. Albert Ellis

Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person. Albert Ellis

Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up. Albert Ellis

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You don't blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the President. You realize that you control your own destiny. Albert Ellis

By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed. Albert Ellis

I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them. Albert Ellis

I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies. Albert Ellis

I hope to die in the saddle seat. Albert Ellis

In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you. Albert Ellis

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has, and I hope that REBT teaches them how to do it. Albert Ellis

You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity. Albert Ellis

The goal of all life is to have a ball. Albert Ellis

Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth. Albert Ellis

Most things worth having require some sacrifice, usually more than you expect. Albert Ellis

Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny. Albert Ellis

Religious fanaticism has clearly produced, and in all probability will continue to produce, enormous amounts of bickering, fighting, violence, bloodshed, homicide, feuds, wars, and genocide. Albert Ellis

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection. Albert Ellis

I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it and practiced it. Albert Ellis

People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Albert Ellis

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years. Albert Ellis

If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments. Albert Ellis

Attempts to help humans eliminate all self-ratings and views self-esteem as a self-defeating concept that encourages them to make conditional evaluations of self. Instead, it teaches people unconditional self-acceptance. Albert Ellis

Is self-esteem a sickness? That's according to the way you define it. In the usual way it is defined by people and by psychologists, I'd say that it is probably the greatest emotional disturbance known to man and woman. Albert Ellis

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. Albert Ellis

You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the ability, if you use it, to choose healthy instead of unhealthy thinking, feeling and acting. Albert Ellis

We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning. Albert Ellis

The great majority of the things we now make ourselves panicked about are self-created 'dangers' that exist almost entirely in our own imaginations. Albert Ellis

Much of what we call emotion is nothing more or less than a certain kind - a biased, prejudiced, or strongly evaluative kind - of thought. Albert Ellis

The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law-abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer. Albert Ellis

Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others. Albert Ellis

Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor. Albert Ellis

So I'd better stop my whining and help myself cope better with even the worst Adversities. Albert Ellis

Whining about your own, others', or the world's failings is a main element in what we usually call neurosis. Albert Ellis

The art of love is largely the art of persistence. Albert Ellis

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional. Albert Ellis

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it. Albert Ellis

As a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing. Albert Ellis

Religious creeds encourage some of the craziest kinds of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and favor severe manifestations of neurosis, borderline personality states, and sometimes even psychosis. Albert Ellis

If the Martians ever find out how human beings think, they'll kill themselves laughing. Albert Ellis



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